I dimly remember what it was like, when it started. The loss. When it felt like the world would end/had ended, when I didn’t know how I could possibly go on, when it felt impossible and unfair and inconceivable. Before the seventh, eighth, twentieth onebyoneeverythingisstrippedaway
Somewhere inside me I remember gasping for air, the disorientation, the indignance. I remember when I was blessed to be indignant at life.
Now, well. Life has brought me to my knees too many times to be indignant like that anymore. The innocence of a life unbroken and a worldview unshattered is long, long, long fucking gone.
I know my place. More than anything, I learnt that it can always, always
always, a l w a y s—be worse,
Wherever you are, whatever inconceivable, life changing, rug pulled out from under you, wings clipped, thing-you-took-for-granted taken from you situation you are in, I guarantee you it can be worse.
In ways that your innocent mind cannot now currently conceive of -(as you gasp shocked mouth open how!, hands on hips like a child)- in the same way that you-prior-to-this, couldn’t conceive of whatever is now happening to you.
Life’s capacity for upheaval, loss, bereavement is limitless, it is beyond your comprehension and your control, you are powerless before it. And what it can ask of you, of your heart, of your patience and resilience and forbearance, is limitless too.
So kneel. Humble yourself before it, sooner rather than later. Start counting your blessings like rosary beads, and treasuring everything you have and love (cos eventually, you’re gonna lose it all too).
Make the most of it right now and don’t waste another fucking second.